Kenya’s Sexually Transmitted Grades.
When the reality of not graduating downs on many a fun-loving campus girl, desperation sets in and they are willing to do anything for the grades, including having sex with lecturers, writes GARDY CHACHA
Being educated no doubt gives you a competitive edge for survival. Completing higher education is like creaming an arduously prepared cake for it to be ready for the market. The excitement and tempestuous feelings that inducts when one thinks about their graduation is palpable.
As days blend into nights and the clock ticks in an unending sequence, the thought of joining the
corporate world as an intellectual becomes more real. What then happens when you are informed that you won’t graduate until a year later because you have to redo a unit you failed?
Joan Mwikali’s class was scheduled to graduate last year in December. She, however, could not graduate because she had failed to attain the pass mark for a unit that was essential for her to attain the degree. She, therefore, had to wait for another graduation slated for mid this year, by which time she was expected to redo the unit.
She had no choice and patiently waited for second semester of this year. Joan couldn’t believe it when she was told she was facing a challenge in the same unit and couldn’t graduate again.
When she delved into the matter, she was told she hadn’t done one CAT (continuous assessment test) and she would have to wait until another semester so as to begin the course afresh.
However, her lecturer — a male — told her that even if she were to graduate, she wouldn’t “just graduate for free”. Caught between a rock and a hard place, she agreed to share a night with him for an ‘A’, which could guarantee her graduation and joining the job market that she had eagerly awaited.
The ‘lay for an A’ phenomenon is a reality in many institutions of higher learning as students become desperate to get the required papers to join the competitive job market. When a student is faced with a tacky prospect of achieving her dreams albeit in the wrong way, and there is no leeway provided for them to seek legal channels, then the vice is nurtured.
Caroline Makana found herself giving in to a lecturer’s request that he replaces her grades, which were mostly Ds, with As. She was in Third Year and wasn’t facing a snag from graduating, neither was she expected to redo a course, but her level of academic performance was exceptionally low. She needed a ‘boost’ if she was to attain at least a second class, upper division. It occurred to her that if she didn’t do something about it, her precious degree certificate would be dotted with Ds, which she figured would compromise her in the job market.
“A man is just a man: Having sex with one won’t kill. If he can exchange pleasure with As, that’s a bonus,” says the now Fourth Year student at a local university.
“It’s a rare gift God gave women and at times you’ve to use it to save face,” adds Caroline.
Counselling psychologist Catherine Mbau says campus girls are vulnerable to malevolent ideas from male lecturers who neither care for their rights nor their integrity.
A girl fails her exams and the university statutes give her no room of progressing. The student might be blackmailed by her lecturer and may lack strength to say ‘No’. It could sometimes also be fear of failure or it could be that they have their priorities mixed up,” she says.
Catherine reiterates that essential avenues to save girls from this pedagogical absurdity are closed. At the same time, she says girls share in the blame since they are responsible for exposing themselves. She adduces that it’s a matter of choice and protecting self-integrity.
Says Mbau: “A girl who doesn’t follow the obvious creed for passing exams is inviting rogue male lecturers to take advantage of her. They want good results without working for it, which doesn’t make sense,” she argues.
Another woman, Grace Boke, admits to having been once tempted to sleep with a lecturer for academic favours. She had already agreed and what remained was to ‘solemnise’ the deal after which everyone would get their share of the bargain. She, however, grew cold feet on the designated date and did not show up at the agreed meeting place.
“I just couldn’t bring myself to imagine meeting him on campus pavements and saying hallo. Again, he would’ve gained control over me because to him, I wouldn’t have graduated without him,” Grace says.
*John Mwamba, a lecturer at a local private university, who doesn’t want to be identified, affirms the sentiments of many on this subject.
“Yes, sex is something a man can’t avoid. Many thought that the habit of lecturers sleeping with girls on campus subsided, but what really happened is that lecturers smartened. You get cosy with the girl in faraway places where no one knows you and then you act as if nothing is happening when you get back to town or campus,” he says.
Mwamba, however, says girls cannot be absolved of the problem because they don’t resist and always behave in a manner that suggests they wouldn’t mind so long as you award them good grades.
Mbau advises girls to be focused and firm. She says they should decide upfront what is important to them — the grade or integrity. Believing in their personal ability is a virtue since they got to campus without having sex and can go past it with their dignity intact.
“Girls should utilise time management skills and prioritise their studies so that they avoid having to grapple with giving into sex for grades. Self worth is not earned through grades,” concludes Mbau.
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For purposes of staying within the context of this article, I shall not comment on men/boys who sleep with female lecturers/bosses for academic and career mileage, but it’s real.
Women and girls have become so cheap and strongly believe sex is their strongest weapon. I agree it could be their strongest weapon, but then they give it out so easily like it doesn’t matter. Women ‘climbing the corporate ladder horizontally’ is a norm, at least here in Kenya beginning from colleges and universities to work places. One is most likely to exercise caution and great care in a position they earned legitimately as opposed to one they earned through sex. No wonder we have many women unjustifiably rising ranks so quickly, offices being full of pettiness, attitude and mediocre.
But it takes two to tangle. Shame on them, the men who sleep with women for academic and career mileage. Women should, however understand there is a huge difference in sexuality between them and men. In such solicited sex escapades, majority of men if not all have no guilt. Majority of women if not all end up affected by guilt, even for their entire lives – subject to correction.
Don’t get me wrong. There are women who have worked hard and stood the test of time. They have succeeded and are now great people. They went to the same colleges and universities where male lecturers sleep with girls for better grades. They work in offices with some cynical male bosses who will demand sexual favors for a promotion. But they have treasured INTEGRITY and stood the test of time.
It’s not about university statutes, nor blackmail from lecturers nor fear of failure, but its lack of INTEGRITY. The lack of strength to say no is lack of INTEGRITY. Period. See above the example of the fourth year girl and Caroline. If you pause the same question to 100 university girls, don’t be shocked 70 of them will go the 4th year girl way. So most of them lack INTEGRITY. Why? Story of another day.
Am sure Boke holds her head high wherever she is even if she is mama mboga. She didn’t give out the precious gift God gave her for a mere grade. Note her saying she would have felt bad the lecturer would have had control over her. This is how women get affected, very different if it were a young man vs an older female lecturer – the writer can research on this too.
A woman is the pillar of the society. This am not forgetting any time soon. Removing the pants for any man for academic and/or career favours will leave all of us devastated. If men have failed, women need not fail. Thus women and girls should stop compromising their sexuality for mere grades. University statutes and errant lecturers can be fought. Women have fought many society battles and won. This should be an easy one.